We explain what falling in love is and what effects it has on people. Characteristics and symptoms. Factors involved.
What is falling in love?
Falling in love is an emotional state that It is characterized by joy and the strong attraction of one person towards another. This feeling manifests itself in individuals in such a way that they feel that they can share all types of events in their lives.
Falling in love, from a biological and biochemical point of view, originates in the cerebral cortex continuing its journey through the endocrine system and secreting dopamine, a hormone responsible for generating changes in the hypothalamus whose manifestation is purely physiological.
be in love manifests itself in the communication of emotions and gestures.
There are two types of crushes, external and internal. External infatuation consists of falling in love with what one can see with one's eyes, that is, with the physical appearance of the other person. Internal infatuation arises when one feels this feeling because of how the individual is inside, their feelings.
See also: Love
Characteristics of falling in love
- Desire for reciprocity Strong desire for the other individual to also be in love with the person. It is a desire for reciprocity.
- Fear of rejection Fear of suffering rejection from the other person.
- Regular thoughts about the other person Regularly intense thinking about the person you are in love with.
- Nerves and anxiety In the presence of the subject, a person in love manifests nervousness, rapid heartbeat, and stuttering.
- Interest in the other person's tastes Attraction towards the same tastes that the other person has.
- Attention focused on the other person Complete attention of the person towards the other individual.
According to researcher Yela, in an article published in 2002, a large number of scientists have managed to create various models of theories and hypotheses that thoroughly explain and describe falling in love.
In the first instance, he falling in love process It starts with a physical look towards the person, different from the others. Secondly, the subject feels a strong personal attraction that becomes strongly present when it is suspected that the other person feels the same, is physically and personally attracted to the other subject, that is, that the attraction is reciprocal.
Factors involved in falling in love
At least in the first stage of falling in love, this feeling is a chemical reaction. Our brain produces a substance called phenylethylamine, whose function is to secrete dopamine, which gives our body effects similar to those of amphetamines, producing a state of joy, excitement and natural euphoria when we have the presence of our lover.
It is in our genetics: as human beings (animals) we carry the instinct of reproduction and continuation of the species.
There are differences between being in love and loving to the other person, Erich Fromm explains it to us in his book “The art of loving.” Fromm suggests that when we fall in love we are in love with the physical form of the person. By sharing our deepest thoughts and feelings with the chosen person, we feel that we have been able to make a connection with someone.
This feeling that generates intense pleasure, even changing the chemical composition of our body, produces substances called endorphins. This substance is responsible for keeping us constantly in a good mood, with a radiant smile all day long. While we are in love, we feel that we are next to the most wonderful person in the universe, the most perfect creation. Fromm suggests that in reality, we start to love when we stop being in love.
How is this possible? Love takes time you need to know the other person in depth, know both the good and the bad, the defects and the virtues. Despite this, falling in love is a beautiful feeling, although the feeling only lasts at the beginning of a relationship. There are people who consider themselves addicted to falling in love: they begin a relationship and when the falling in love stage ends and visualizing defects, they end it.
When someone truly loves, they accept the other person in their entirety with its defects and its failures. A person in love tries to make the other better.
